Are you living in an area where finding a therapist who understands nonmonogamous or queer identities is challenging?

Virtual Non-Monogamy Coaching

Many regions lack resources and professionals who specialize in these areas, which can leave you feeling unsupported.

While I am licensed to provide therapy only in California, I am passionate about extending my expertise to those outside my home state through coaching.

You’re trying to make this work, but it’s harder than expected!

Are you exploring non-monogamy, polyamory, or open relationships? Maybe you’ve always felt limited by traditional relationship models, or you’re curious about expanding beyond them. Perhaps you’re already practicing consensual non-monogamy but face challenges around communication, boundaries, or jealousy. You may be searching for a non-monogamy therapist or polyamory therapist because you’re finding it hard to locate local resources that truly understand the complexities of open relationships.

In non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships, familiar challenges like communication, trust, and intimacy take on unique nuances. Your relationship style, identity, and values might set you apart from the people around you, and that difference can sometimes be isolating. Exploring an open relationship might be exciting, but it’s also complex and layered with deep, meaningful considerations and lots of potential pitfalls.

You can see the signs, it’s time to get some help!

Navigating non-monogamous relationships can be incredibly rewarding, but it’s rarely straightforward. For many, the journey to consensual non-monogamy or polyamory is complicated by inner conflict, external judgment, and relationship dynamics that are both unique and challenging. Perhaps you’re experiencing:

  • Constant Conflict: Tensions around boundaries, jealousy, or expectations that lead to arguments, frustration, or emotional withdrawal.

  • Emotional Exhaustion: Feeling drained from the effort to maintain open communication and transparency, but unsure if it’s ever enough.

  • Persistent Insecurity: Struggling with self-worth, or wondering if you’ll ever feel “enough” in a relationship with multiple partners.

  • Isolation: Feeling that friends, family, or society at large misunderstand or judge your life, leaving you without a support network.

  • Unresolved Jealousy: Unable to shake jealousy, no matter how much you want to support your partner’s autonomy.

  • Fear of Abandonment: Worrying constantly about losing your partner, even though non-monogamy is a mutual choice.

If you’re dealing with these challenges, you’re not alone. Consensual non-monogamy has unique demands and rewards, and finding a coach who understands can make all the difference.

Bring more ease and freedom into your relationships!

Here are just some of the areas I help with in non-monogamy coaching:

  • Boundaries and Agreements: Setting and maintaining boundaries that respect each partner's needs while supporting individual freedom.

  • Communication Skills: Developing healthy and effective ways to express your desires, fears, and expectations.

  • Managing Jealousy and Insecurity: Learning tools to identify and work through jealousy, self-doubt, and comparison.

  • Emotional Resilience: Building confidence in your ability to manage feelings of vulnerability or fear of abandonment.

  • Navigating Power Dynamics: Addressing issues related to fairness, equity, and balance within your relationship structures.

  • Relationship Transitions: Supporting each partner’s unique needs when moving from monogamy to non-monogamy or adapting to new relationship stages.

  • Building Community and Support: Finding resources and people who can empathize with your experience and reinforce your values.

In non-monogamous relationships, it’s common to feel stuck in cycles of miscommunication, mistrust, or unmet needs. Coaching can provide a safe space to address these issues openly, helping you move from frustration to understanding and from conflict to connection.

  • Non-Monogamy, Polyamory, ENM, CNM, are all types of relationships where people do not adhere to the rules and guidelines of monogamy. These relationships are diverse, and create their own rules and ethics that fit their preferences. They may have multiple romantic, sexual, or platonic partners who may be connected at different levels: living together, co-parenting, dating, casual, or even deep friendships.

  • Oh, wow, so many reasons! First of all, you’re doing something counter-cultural. So there aren’t a ton of good role models for you to look at. Secondly, all relationships are hard! And you’re trying to have intimate, vulnerable, and sexual connections with multiple people. It’s a lot of feelings, schedules, and ideas about what a relationships means and should look like to navigate. This is why it’s a good idea to get personalized guidance if you can! Schedule a call with me to see if we are a fit!es here

  • The difference between coaching and therapy may seem subtle, so we will need to discuss your individual needs in a consultation call, but here’s the basics: 

    Coaching focuses on personal growth, achieving goals, and improving quality of life and relationships without diagnosing or treating mental health conditions. This service is available to clients nationwide, allowing me to work with you regardless of your location. In my role as a coach, for example, we might discuss how your trauma history impacts your relationships, but for specific trauma therapy, I would refer you to a local therapist. 

    Therapy includes everything that coaches can do, but can also involve treating mental health conditions. As a licensed therapist in California, I provide therapeutic services within that state, adhering to specific legal and ethical guidelines. For example, I would only do deep trauma wok for PTSD healing under my license in California, not as a coach

  • This is definitely not off limits! I am still me, with all my training and expertise, so you can feel safe knowing that I can understand the complexities of living with a spicy brain, even if we’re not getting too in the weeds. Often people who want specialized support for queer and non-monogamy issues see a coach for that, while working with a local therapist on their mental health. I am also a very collaborative provider, so I will coordinate with your local therapist to make sure you are getting all the support you need (and I can provide them with some education along the way)!